One of the most widely read books about communication has been the critically acclaimed “Crucial Conversations.” It provides pointers on communicating effectively when something important to both parties needs to be discussed.
This article is designed to help you have your own crucial conversation with your aging loved one about receiving home care and getting some outside assistance. It’s quite likely that they’re going to cringe a bit because of their fear of losing their independence, and that’s understandable. However, these six pointers will help make that conversation easier for both of you.
1. Choose the Right Time and Place
Your loved one probably has a time of day when they are relaxed and a place you’ve talked quietly before. Use that time and place if possible to have your conversation, not when there are distractions like the television or smartphone.
2. Make It a Conversation
When we’re tense about having a conversation, we sometimes end up dominating the talk because of our fear of what we may hear or of there being an awkward silence. Resist making it be a monologue and make it a genuine conversation where your senior feels heard.
3. Be Truthful
An element of your conversation may include discussing how the aging adult can’t do the things they used to, and you’re noticing changes, not for the better, in the cleanliness of their living space, their meal preparation, and their personal grooming. Gently give specific examples of what you’re seeing.
4. Let Them Know You’re on Their Side
Aging seniors can sometimes feel betrayed when first approached about the need for home care; it’s vital that they know you’re acting in their best interest and are only interested in their health and safety.
5. Attempt to Understand Their Fears
Your senior loved one may not say it, but to them, home care may mean they’re “one step away from the nursing home.” Let them know that receiving home care keeps them away from the nursing home and that they can continue to live in the comfort of their own home. Also, reassure them that they’re not giving up their independence; they’re just receiving a little help, which many seniors need.
6. Tell them why it’s important to you.
Are you physically and mentally stressed because of the caregiving you’ve personally been providing? Is your career or income being negatively affected because you don’t have the help or respite you need? Let them know how home care is going to benefit you, as well as them. Don’t make it all about you, but don’t be afraid to tell them how you’re struggling and what you need.
We’re Here to Help With Home Care
New Wave Home Care and our compassionate caregivers help aging adults in Pasadena, California comfortably make the transition to having an outside caregiver in their home. They’ll soon see that we’re sincerely there to help them stay at home in a safe and comfortable environment.
Contact us today and let us help you with the crucial conversation about home care you want to have with your loved one. We offer a free consultation and are happy to become a valued part of your loved one’s team of caring professionals.